Saturday, January 25, 2014

In the beginning--to swing or not to swing?

Hi there. I am Mrs. X. I am 32 years old, have been married for 10 years, and I am a new swinger. Swinging and the swinging lifestyle were not ever part of my life plan, in fact, I fought against the idea for 8 long years…but I am so glad that I finally gave into my husband’s desires and fantasies and decided to fulfill them. My life is far more interesting than it used to be and filled with so many great people I would not have otherwise encountered. You are welcome to follow me on this journey.

I will start with a little background about us. Mr. X and I met in college in the Midwest. I was brought up in a very religious household, and Mr. X went to Catholic school from grade school through high school which ended up making him pretty anti-organized religion. I have to mention that in spite of my moral values and religious upbringing, I was quite a kissing slut in college. I have always loved kissing, and I kissed just about anyone who would let me in college, especially at frat parties when I was drunk. I believe this is part of what fueled Mr. X’s early interest in me, thinking that maybe someday I would be interested in swinging. We were sort of friends for two years before he was to graduate a year ahead of me. I didn’t recognize his teasing over the years for the flirting that it was. He made his feelings known to me just as he was about to leave forever. We started dating right after he graduated in the three months that summer before he was going to move across the country for grad school. We did not want to say goodbye when fall came, and we were engaged a month later. Just over a year after we started dating, we were married. It took another two years for Mr. X to reveal his deepest, darkest fantasies to me.

In 2005, we were separated for three months for work, and as his time away came to an end, we decided to plan a vacation upon his return. I told him that because he had been working so hard during his time away, he deserved to pick our destination. The response from Mr. X was something I neither expected nor understood much about at the time. He framed the resort as “clothing-optional”. I was quite sheltered my whole life. The extent of conversation between Mr. X and me about swinging was limited at the time primarily to him talking about wanting to have sex with my best friend and me with her husband. We already believed that my friend’s husband (who I had also been good friends with for years) wanted to sleep with me because the two of them had invited me to join them in bed for a threesome recently. I declined. Anyway, back to my story about vacation…I didn’t really know what an “adult” resort was or what “clothing-optional” really meant. However, I had told him he could pick, so we were off to Hedonism III (which no longer exists) in Jamaica.

On our Jamaican vacation, I had quite a shocking and eye-opening experience. We were hit on from the second we got in the resort shuttle at the airport. We walked around the resort and saw people everywhere engaging openly in sexual acts. People were naked or partially clothed. A gentleman sitting next to me one night at dinner openly spoke with me about the swapping experiences he and his wife frequently engaged in. I was 23 at the time and didn’t quite know what to think. I did, however, sunbathe topless at the pool all week. We also participated in the toga theme night at the dance club at the resort. That night I got drunk enough to be talked into getting naked to go on the three-story water slide that went directly through the dance club (it was clear, of course, where it went through the club so that everyone could get a show while they danced or talked). After that, we played some naked water polo…that was the extent of my swinger interaction for 8 years. At the time, it wasn’t for me. A big part of my reluctance was my religious upbringing. Swinging just didn’t fit into my world view of what marriage and relationships were supposed to be like. I also felt like Mr. X’s desire to swing meant there was something wrong with me since it had to mean I wasn’t enough for him. This idea actually had nothing to do with his desires, but it took me a long time to realize that.

I’ll skip 8 years ahead to 2013. Mr. X and I were in a great place in our relationship, married 10 years, parents to an adorable 1-year-old, having more sex than we ever had before, and over all of the relationship hurdles life had thrown at us. Still, swinging was Mr. X’s greatest fantasy. I knew it wasn’t ever going to go away. Over the years he kept telling me that even more than his desire to have sex with other women, he wanted to see me fuck another man, to please and be pleased by someone else. This idea turned him on so much. All I would have to do was breathe the word “swinger”, and Mr. X would be hard as a rock and ready to go. Mr. X and I were separated for 6 months that year for work again. The long-distance phone calls and daily g-chatting gave us a long time to talk about the issue. I finally came up with a compromise, something that he would do in exchange for me giving swinging a shot. He happily agreed.


About a month before he was scheduled to return home, we decided to sign up on a swinger website. Like many dating websites, you create a profile with your basic information, what you’re into, and what you’re looking for, pictures, etc. We started by posting some pictures of me in lingerie that I’d sent to him over the months of our time apart. We blacked out my eyes in them so that I wasn’t immediately identifiable, as most people do. You can also post additional pictures that you grant people access to on a case-by-case basis. In that album we showed our faces. We also posted a few pictures of me topless and one normal photo of the two of us together before he left. I wasn’t expecting the response we received right away. This site keeps track of your recent profile views, which I love. I expected that the only people we would talk to would be those we contacted first. I didn’t think we’d get the flood of messages from people we did in the beginning and continue to receive on a regular basis. I believe within a month our profile had more than 2000 recent views. At the end of his time away, we met up for a week of vacation in Europe, which was amazing. We took advantage of staying in a fancy hotel at the end of our trip and had an erotic photography session so that we would have some new pictures for the swinger site…though I should also mention that the sex after 6 months apart and months of talking about swinging was incredible. The first night I was extremely giggly drunk. We broke out some bondage tape so that he could restrain my wrists while he went down on me and then fucked me senseless. We had to apologize to the friends we were staying with at the time for all of the noise. 

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